It was easy for me to say when my ex-boyfriend started moving away from me before we broke up.
You know that this is parting before parting.
He began to spend less time with me. He no longer showed feelings to me in public. The guy who liked me for never giving a damn on the social network suddenly started carefully conducting his Instagram and trying to look good on his selfie.
Once I got angry that he left for the whole weekend without saying a word to me, and he didn’t even want to discuss it. He left me emotionally before he left physically.
And, indeed, it is possible to single out such stages, through which the pairs pass even before they part on the fact:
1. You almost do not quarrel.
Do you think the absence of quarrels is a good sign? Not true. Quarrels are an investment in a relationship. They show that you are not indifferent to what is happening between you. And when you stop quarreling, it means you don’t care. You don’t want to look for a solution to the problems, because in your mind you have already crossed this relationship.
2Your sex life is changing.
And not necessarily for the worse, although most often it is. You just no longer attracts each other. Although some before parting begin to have more sex, because this is the only thing that remains good from the relationship.
That is exactly what happened in my relationship. I realized that we were finished when we “talked” with each other and spent time together only in bed. And when we didn’t have sex, it was very awkward, so you could hear the mice scratching. We started talking about the weather ...
3. The presence of each other becomes unbearable.
Irritation reaches the limit. You want to throw a chair at him. You fantasize about the most sophisticated methods of killing. You just can’t look at him anymore - or feel it on his part. The jokes no longer seem funny, but only enrage. The thought of time together makes you shiver.
4. You change your appearance.
When a person has decided for himself that his relationship is finished, he begins a new life, finds new interests, friends, his new image. He subconsciously goes further.
5. You change at the chemical level.
Oxytocin is a hormone responsible for communication between partners. It is produced during touches, kisses, emotional conversations. If the amount of oxytocin decreases, women may experience depression, apathy and a decrease in libido.
In men, testosterone levels may decrease if he does not feel interest in the relationship. This hormone is produced when a man conquers something, wins, feels like a hero in the house.
6. You stop trying for your relationship.
This is one of the main indicators of separation, because relationships require effort, and if no one puts them, then they will not survive.