It hurts when you are considered a temporary refuge waiting for someone more meaningful. To avoid this situation, look at the alarming signs that your boyfriend is using you as a transit point on the way to his true love:
Failure to talk about future plans is a major warning signal. Many people who treat their partners as placeholders of the void, can carefully discuss all that relates to relations with them, even if it is plans for the near future. He simply does not focus on the future with you.
Even if your partner justifies himself in the spirit of “I live in the present” - do not trust such comments. In fact, it shows that you are not a priority, you are just near when it’s convenient.
If you started dating right after he [or she] left the relationship, most likely you play the role of a wedge that knocks out another wedge. People often feel lonely immediately after a break, and rush to start a new relationship in order to ease the pain and ease the separation.
The problem is that the partner sees you, such relationships can be very erotic and incendiary, but they are temporary. Anyone who starts dating you right after a break probably looks at you as a filler of your own emptiness.
You are a comfortable friend, not a serious investment. He does not invest energy in relationships, and you simply meet when it is convenient for him. Relationships must progress, not remain stagnant. If you feel that the Groundhog Day has arrived in your relationship, it means that it is. Love yourself and don't let someone subjugate you. You deserve the best. Believe it!
He will not introduce you to people who are important in his life, even if you are together for a while. Do not allow him to make excuses when you ask about when you will see his relatives. He may have a lot of reasons for this, but without this stage your joint future is impossible. If a year has passed, but his mother doesn’t know about you either by hearing or by spirit - it’s time to sound the alarm.
If your partner feels that you are not needed or not important in his life, he will not find enough time for you in his schedule.Temporary partners are seen as a need for sex or until something better appears. If he has little time for you, then he is using you for sex. Staying in such a relationship will end when your partner finds someone better. Take matters into your own hands and end this poisonous relationship.
When you have no serious conversations, you are the filler of its emptiness. In this list of discussions everything is from jointly held holidays to the future. If you consider yourself his girlfriend, but the discussion about how to push the relationship forward never happens, you simply are a temporary refuge for him. It's hard to admit, but if this happens, be honest with yourself for your own good.
If you are sitting in a restaurant with your chosen one, and he looks aloof from the distance, or he often looks into his smartphone, without looking up, you are probably the filler of his emptiness. Or, if he rarely asks you about your day, never listens or does not remember what you answered, these are the same warning signs.
If your partner does not treat you with respect, you are just a temporary need.Respect is one of the key components of a relationship that stands along with trust, honesty, and love. And, if your partner does not respect you, drop him.
You are the filler of its emptiness, if you feel yourself as its clumsy application, and not an integral part of the equation. You should feel your own importance next to your partner. If there is no such feeling, run! If you want to be part of your partner's life, you should not settle for anything less.