How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

After the editorial experiment, when the chief editor of UaUa.info allowed her six-year-old daughter to dye her hair pink, disputes broke out among our readers.

Some said that a girl with hair in the colors of her beloved My little pony is great and cool. Others argued that such early experiments with appearances would necessarily affect the psyche of the child, and could be harmful to him.

We decided to find out the point of view of a specialist. We asked the founder of kindergartens “Sovenyat”, a psychologist and a mother of two daughters Oksana Przhegornitskaya, how beauty experiments can affect a girl.

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I treat this normally: colored hair does not harm the child. My eldest daughter has purple strands. And in “Sovenyaty” we have a six-year-old girl with a hairstyle under Yolandi - a hedgehog with a very short bang, and behind it there are long strands. The girl wanted, and mom and dad were allowed - why not?

We have progressive parents in “Sovenyaty”. There are moms with green hair, eat with dreadlocks, with a hedgehog. Accordingly, to the children's desire to experiment and be bright, they are also ready.

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What really affects the child's psyche is early sexualization. That is, when out of a child, girls make a “mini-woman”: bright make-up, languid looks, clothes with a pretense of frankness.
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I saw the girl that my mother took her to all beauty contests, rented in advertising. At the age of five she was done highlighting, tinted. And these were not childish shkodnye experiments with flowers, nothing child at all. It was an attempt to make a small woman out of a child, in accordance with the requirements of the market.

Such an approach is traumatic. A girl learns to perceive herself through her appearance, begins to believe that her value depends on how she looks. And that this value is not determined by herself, but by someone else.
And in pink, green, purple hair, in bangs-hedgehogs there is neither sexualisation nor objectification. It's just original and fun.

One of the arguments of opponents of bright hair in children - they say, girls imitate the heroines of Monster High.For some reason they see something negative and harmful for children in these characters.

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Actually Monster High are very good characters. Because they just show that beauty is different, and that people are different too.
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Prior to this, Barbie dolls made to the same standard were popular for many years. This is just now released Barbie with different figures. Before that there was one figure, one face. The girls imitated them and all aspired to the same image.
And Monster High serves an excellent idea of ​​diversity: people are born different, we have different characteristics, appearance, abilities. And these images are more useful than images of Barbie and princesses of the same type.


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On the one hand, the desire to be beautiful is also a manifestation of the child’s personality, self-expression. On the other hand, a five-year-old babe with an adult make-up for a photo shoot or a beauty contest is not sober, and I am very against it.
The main reason is the same objectification of girls, when they are taught to perceive themselves through their appearance.
But where it does not concern the early sexualization, I only for. Face painting, for example. It's cool when a man comes to the garden today with Spiderman, tomorrow a dragon, then a fairy.
When a girl wants to paint a marigold sponge, you also need to look at the cause.

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If she wants to be beautiful, because someone said to her that the only way she will be beautiful, and only beautiful people will love her, this is a problem.
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This is one of the elements of the objectification of women in society. Do you know a lot about beauty contests for boys? They simply do not. And for girls - the mass.

This is one of the points of our system of society, when a girl is forced to compete with someone in terms of appearance.

If this is just an element of imitation: the mother has a cosmetic bag, and I need, then there is nothing unusual in this. All the girls, and even some boys, at some stage are passing.

I am not a supporter of children's painted nails, but if my daughters want “like a mother,” I don’t forbid it. But some dress in a fishnet and make-up under a “sexy lady” with underlined lips, cheekbones - no, that is not.

Sooner or later, girls start to grow up and identify themselves as women. They no longer want to paint under a dragon or a fairy, makeup for them becomes part of flirting, relationships with boys.
This happens to someone earlier, someone later. And only parents can regulate here.At first they inhibit this process, prohibit it, and then gradually release it. And you need to be prepared for what will have to release.
Moreover, it is the parents who should control it, and not the school. From my point of view, the school teaches children, period. This is where its functions end. Educational functions are a matter of family and parents.


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Many of my colleagues support the idea that the form outlines for the child some kind of framework. I am an ardent opponent of this.
Yes, the framework of behavior in society must be. But the same clothes for all - it is too imposed boundaries.
I am for the person in school could dress as he likes. I have two daughters, completely different in character, appearance, habits in clothes.
The eldest daughter always loved to dress in princesses. Skirts, dresses - this is her. And all the beautiful jeans that I bought her, lay all childhood childhood dead weight.
By inertia, the younger daughter also began to buy dresses. But they are lying, and she says: “I don’t want a bootie yak princess, I want booti pystoko yak Lyubava”.
All children are different, with different tastes. I don't think dressing everyone in the same shape is a good idea.

There is another idea that the school uniform supposedly removes differences in the social status of parents. But this idea does not work. The status of parents, besides clothes, is manifested in hundreds of other ways, you cannot hide it. This is the brand of the phone, and the car on which the child is brought, and little things, like pens and notebooks. We cannot create a vacuum and equalize everyone.

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A school uniform is the same element of the system, such as, for example, folded hands on a desk, or the need to stand up when an adult enters.
This is a series of groundless rules that you have to follow, but no one can explain why.

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They are aimed at making a person “one of”, driving him into a frame. Make it more obedient. And an obedient child is convenient for everyone except himself. So I would be very happy if the form was canceled.

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    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist

    How do experiments with appearances affect a girl: the opinion of a psychologist