How to have a happy sex life after 50 years

Studies have shown that many madam older than 50 years no longer consider sex to be pleasant, moreover, one in 10 women experiences pain during intercourse. Many suffer in silence, as they consider this topic a taboo. How to overcome these difficulties and have a happy sex life?
What is sex?

First determine what sex means to you. Is it penetration of the vagina or something else? For example, does it hurt you when you masturbate or have oral, anal sex? When you bleed, does it occur inside or outside the vagina or the backside?

What is pain like and where do you feel it?

Does the pain in the place where you feel it affect all your genitals? Or it affects specific areas: the clitoris, labia, urethra, vagina or other genital areas, the perineum or buttocks. Is it intravaginal pain or inside the backside or abdomen? How would you describe pain? Is it constant or does it come and go? Do you feel pain all the time or only during / after sex?

What could be causing the pain? For example, recovery after childbirth (especially if you have undergone an episiotomy). Is this due to any touch, contact? For example, are all your genitalia sensitive or do you find the painful area with your finger, sex toy, penis, etc.)?

Bleeding

You do not want to ignore the bleeding during or after sex, but you can not pinpoint the possible causes. Remember if your menstruation should start soon and if your vagina was very dry during sex, besides, your partner could accidentally scratch your nails inside.

Bleeding is a common occurrence during sex during pregnancy, are you pregnant? Maybe you have a sexually transmitted disease? Where is the blood coming from? What color has blood, how long does the bleeding last, is it accompanied by pain? Answering these questions, you make a list of all the symptoms and find out the possible causes of bleeding.

Positions

The pain is often associated with specific positions. While some people find any kind of penetrating sex uncomfortable, poses for deeper penetration cause the most discomfort.If your partner has a big penis (long or wide), it can cause pain, so you need to find positions that will be most convenient for you.

I'm excited, but I still hurt

Quite often in these situations, you may feel excited, wet, but still doing things that are uncomfortable and cause pain. Perhaps your lubrication is not enough for pleasant sensations. Then you should experiment with lubricants. Explore yourself and find the best solution.

I can't get horny at all

When pain is caused by dryness, factors such as breastfeeding, vaginoplasty, menopause, or the side effects of certain medications can provoke it. You can also worry about pain or relationship problems, so don't get excited. In this situation, you will help a frank conversation with your partner and lubricant.

I do it even if it hurts

Should I sacrifice myself for sex? You do not need to torture yourself to please your partner or blame yourself for not providing sex. If this is not part of BDSM games, most partners do not want you to feel pain and bleed.If you are in a relationship in which you are afraid to talk about it, or you are forced to have sex, deliberately causing pain, contact the helpline for victims of violence.

I do not enjoy sex

You do not feel sexual desire or do not show interest at all? In the second case, you can be asexual. If you think you would like sex, but there are certain barriers, list them. One prevents pain and dryness from enjoying sex, others may not recover from sexual abuse, psychological or physiological trauma. Write down everything that you think is enjoyable in sex. This will help you focus on what you enjoy.

Relationship problems

If there is no attraction in your relationship, but there is a place for jealousy and other barriers, it is not surprising that you cannot be close to your partner. If the connection is complex, then it is also difficult to tell a partner about their problems. In this case, you will help psychotherapy.

I checked and everything is fine with me, what else could be wrong?

Sometimes people undergo a complete check (for example, a gynecological examination, a smear or a scan) and still continue to have sex, even if it hurts or causes bleeding.The absence of an obvious physical cause does not exclude other problems. It is better to focus on finding them than to continue to have painful sex.

I'm afraid to tell someone

The flip side of the question is that a person may be afraid to undergo an examination and be tested, and continues to have sex through pain and bleeding. It is worth noting that, in most cases, painful sex causes the reasons described above. But, if this is a medical problem, it can be thrush, cystitis or bacterial vaginosis, which can be easily treated.

Sexually transmitted infections also often cause pain and bleeding. Do not be afraid that your partner will know about it, the faster you go to a doctor, the sooner you find out the cause and the sooner he can recover.

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    How to have a happy sex life after 50 years

    How to have a happy sex life after 50 years

    How to have a happy sex life after 50 years

    How to have a happy sex life after 50 years

    How to have a happy sex life after 50 years

    How to have a happy sex life after 50 years

    How to have a happy sex life after 50 years

    How to have a happy sex life after 50 years

    How to have a happy sex life after 50 years

    How to have a happy sex life after 50 years

    How to have a happy sex life after 50 years

    How to have a happy sex life after 50 years

    How to have a happy sex life after 50 years

    How to have a happy sex life after 50 years

    How to have a happy sex life after 50 years

    How to have a happy sex life after 50 years

    How to have a happy sex life after 50 years

    How to have a happy sex life after 50 years

    How to have a happy sex life after 50 years

    How to have a happy sex life after 50 years

    How to have a happy sex life after 50 years

    How to have a happy sex life after 50 years

    How to have a happy sex life after 50 years

    How to have a happy sex life after 50 years

    How to have a happy sex life after 50 years

    How to have a happy sex life after 50 years

    How to have a happy sex life after 50 years

    How to have a happy sex life after 50 years

    How to have a happy sex life after 50 years

    How to have a happy sex life after 50 years

    How to have a happy sex life after 50 years

    How to have a happy sex life after 50 years

    How to have a happy sex life after 50 years

    How to have a happy sex life after 50 years

    How to have a happy sex life after 50 years

    How to have a happy sex life after 50 years

    How to have a happy sex life after 50 years

    How to have a happy sex life after 50 years

    How to have a happy sex life after 50 years

    How to have a happy sex life after 50 years

    How to have a happy sex life after 50 years

    How to have a happy sex life after 50 years

    How to have a happy sex life after 50 years

    How to have a happy sex life after 50 years

    How to have a happy sex life after 50 years

    How to have a happy sex life after 50 years

    How to have a happy sex life after 50 years

    How to have a happy sex life after 50 years

    How to have a happy sex life after 50 years