Is there sex after giving birth

Is there sex after giving birth?

 

Natalya Galitsyna, a psychologist at the Center for the World of Harmony, will tell you how and why a woman’s attitude towards sex after childbirth changes, and will advise how to react to a man.

Interest Ask? With many fears, many husbands are waiting for the heirs to be born, because they have already been told that they will have to put up a cross for sex ... and for a long time. And literate Frenchmen have a saying: “A woman needs a year to become a mother, and a year to become a woman again».

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What happens after giving birth to a woman?

We will understand a lot when we begin to understand the nature of female sexuality in general. Women know very little about their sexuality, and men know even less about it.

Women often study on books about the bitch and on women's magazines, where it is written what they should do, but it is not written how to do it from the heart and so that they can be proud of themselves afterwards. Well, men often go the simple way: they think that female sexuality has the same nature as male.And those and others here start numerous mistakes, because it has long been known that the feeling “I must” does not bring as much joy as I want, and men and women are so different in nature that one can only wonder how did we find ourselves on the same planet?

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What is sex for a woman?

If you ask this question to an ordinary man, he will surely “measure by his measure” and say that sex for a woman is a need. Although modern psychologists claim that sex is a necessity for men, and for women it is ... pleasure! The same in strength and importance, as a piece of ice cream or a piece of cake. That is, the event is desirable and pleasant, but not at all necessary.
An even more interesting question: what is the main organ of sexuality in women? Many are looking for an answer somewhere in the pelvic region (again, by analogy with men). Scientists searched there, but they did not find it. After all, in fact, all the sexuality of a woman ... in my head! That is, a woman does not have an organ that, like a man, accumulates tension and requires discharge! This means that physiologically nothing prevents her from living, and as I read on this topicsaying a sexologistin one good men's magazine: "A woman can have a certain tension as a result of hormone fluctuations, and then she can, without a “stimulus” in the form of a man, want sex ... 1-2 times a month. All the rest of the time she calmly cooks borsch and she is not tormented by visions of naked men at night.". This applies to those women who do not have hormonal imbalance. And many women agree with this characteristic.

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Well, after childbirth what happens to a woman?

Her head, the main sexual organ, is often occupied with the theme: “we ate,” “we slept,” “we have a tummy ache” month voltage does not appear. ANDfatigue- from the monotony of life, from isolation from the usual life, from the constant anxiety for the baby - desire of sex does not add.

The first 40 days after childbirth, doctors recommend to exclude intimate relationships, because the woman is healing the uterus. Add here tangible energy costs for milk production, and during childbirth, decent energy stores are often used up, and then the body tends to fill them up and wants to sleep, sleep, sleep.And during lactation, often because of hormones, vaginal dryness is observed - here, even sex may not even bring pleasure. And if during the birth there were injuries of the perineum - then they also heal and can ache.

Here is such a picture. So, men will ask sadly, is it really possible to put a cross on sex?
Not really. There is hope. If two adults love each other, that is: they want to bring joy to another and give attention, and at the same time know how to talk to each other, then from the postpartum periodyou can extract a lot of usefulness for all!
 

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let's tryunderstand the benefitsfrom the temporary lack of sex in the family for some time after the birth of the child. Yes, I propose to talk about the benefits, and not to have the patience to wait for the end of this period. Because, understanding the benefits, we can perceive any difficulties in life with enthusiasm, and not with longing.
Somehow I happened to read about how psychologists examined married couples in order to discover some factors that influence the strengthening of the bond between husband and wife. And stumbled upon onevery interesting fact: it turns out that the strongest relationships were found in families where young people passed from the beginning of relationships to the first intimate intimacy ... at least six months! That is, the longer a couple just talks without going to bed - the stronger they can have a marriage. But ... in modern life there are so few couples who have such an experience! And then the temporary lack of sex after the birth of a child comes to the rescue:makes it possible for a couple to chat and love each other without sexas it happens at the very beginning of a relationship! And it acts refreshingly on the feelings and perceptions of each other. Indeed, in family psychotherapy to improve relations in a couple there is a long-tried method: the spouses need to temporarily stop the relationship in bed and are only allowed to talk, then hold hands, a little later - kiss, etc., that is - you need to gradually come closer. Such a forced break makes it possible to remember how it all began andappreciate what already is. But you can not wait for problems, and spend time so “for prevention”. Moreover, nature itself has to this.

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So what should you do?

For starters, prioritize.What is the most important thing in life? Not a child, as young moms teach, and not a job, as men think. And our relationship is in a pair! This is the basis, it will be good there - the child will also be healthy, beautiful, cheerful, and everything will be fine at work.

Well, if the partner is the main person for us, this is the time.pay attention to him. You can quite successfully “make love without sex” - praise each other, give gifts, do something together, help, just hold each other's hands. In this way, you can be filled with a feeling of love, confidence that you are loved.

Well, then ... who really need sex? Man? Then he and act!Remind my wife that she is a Woman, not just Mother, to be a causative agent for her head, a gentle conqueror for her body, a kind and attentive friend for her soul.

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