Up to 75% of women experience problems with reaching orgasm during sex, and up to 15% of women never reached the peak of pleasure.
Many of these women are convinced that sex should bring more pleasure, because what they are experiencing is not enough.
Pleasure is biologically built into the structure of the woman. The erectile tissue of the clitoris, the complex structure of the pelvic nerve and the hormones released during sex indicate that pleasure is really an integral part of the female body.
So why are so many women living in lack of pleasure?
Women tend to think that pleasure is a kind of luxury or some kind of inconvenience. Even if we take into account that the idea of self-satisfaction is popularized enough in our time, many women are not able or embarrassed to take care of their sexual needs.
Sex is one of the areas where there is a big discrepancy between the ideal (for example, sex, which we want to engage and receive) and reality.
In theory, sex and pleasure are pleasurable, but in practice lovemaking and pleasure are extremely activated, forming “emotional mines” - feelings that cause pain. And in case you have been hurt, you want to avoid its causes.
That is why so many women ignore their basic sexual needs. This is an attempt to avoid conscious and unconscious causes leading to emotional pain.
Paradoxically, sex and pleasure bring a lot of inconvenience. It takes incredible patience, practice and even professional help to weed out all the stereotypes that you have about sex.
Here is what you can do to reorient yourself to enjoyment and orgasm:
Other people may have more experience, knowledge or information about sex than you, but they will not know what you like exactly, so you should figure it out yourself. Feelings and pleasure are 100% subjective, therefore, it is a personal matter.
You have to become an expert in how you experience pleasure.
This means that you need to give up the belief that someone other than you knows what is good for you.
Some women are suspended from their bodies and have no idea what makes them feel good. Create for yourself a space in which your feelings and feelings will not be censored. This will be your starting point of pleasure.
Once you determine what is nice for you, you can become more experienced in self-satisfaction and, ultimately, in sex with a partner.